Friendships are not escapes from loneliness

“We all long for loving community. It enhances life’s joy. But many of us seek community solely to escape the fear of being alone. Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.” — bell hooks, All About Love

Learn to embrace solitude. Practice it. When we are doing well with ourselves and not having the need to fill space with conversation or noise, we can value others more and conversations with friends can be deeper.

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