We are not good at grieving

Probably over time we will learn more about what caused Jovan Belcher to turn to killing his girlfriend, then driving to the Chiefs training facility and taking his own life.

What puzzles me is the decision for the Chiefs to go on with the game tomorrow. The players apparently want to play. I can understand that to a point. However, what it shows, in my opinion, is our inability to deal with grief. Instead of stopping to process to what happened to a teammate, the opposite thing happened. It is the American thing. We don’t know what to do, so we decide to work.

Somehow, we think it “honors” those have died. We need to stop. We need to grieve. We need to mourn. Our souls hurt. Football… or work… just doesn’t matter. Couldn’t we have the courage to say, “Look… for this day… football just isn’t it. I need to stop and mourn the death of my friend.”

But we work. We “soldier on.”

I just wish we were better at grieving.

Jovan Belcher

3 thoughts on “We are not good at grieving

  1. Well said! I agree that we need to pause and process when we encounter these horrible events. Unfortunately, if football stopped to grieve, they would loose $. Could that be the sad reality of the times we live in?-Izzie J

  2. It seems we don’t know how to grieve outside the realm of football either. And if we never grieve, how can we move on? We’ll be stuck. I appreciate that ability in other cultures. They stop. They grieve without apology. Then they (if they are Christians) are able to allow God to help them heal and move ahead in His will.

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